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Advises Engineering Leadership (CTO | VP | Head of Engineering) on how to deliver tech strategy, accelerate delivery and demonstrate bottom line impact

CEO to CTO: "A good CTO should be able to deal with that". CTO to VP Engineering: "A Good VPE should be able to deal with that" VP Engineering to Engineering Manager: "A good EM should be able to deal with that". Engineering Manager to Engineer: "A good engineer should be able to deal with that". Engineer to another engineer asking a question: "A good engineer should be able to deal with that". That's culture! That's how we do things around here - it starts from the top and everyone copies unconsciously what the most senior person in the room does unconsciously. No one creates a toxic culture on purpose. What's wrong with saying this: "A good CTO should be able to deal with that"? This kind of reply is one of the most toxic replies someone can give. Why? Because: ✓ it's telling someone that they're not good enough, ✓ without explicitly telling them that they are not good enough, ✓ while coverty undermining and shaming that person about potentially not being good enough, ✓ while being able to claim that they've never said this person was not good enough because they never explicitly said it ✓ while casting doubt in the mind of the person to make them worry about what they actually meant ✓ while subtly, yet palpably, shaming this person in front of everyone watching, and casting a doubt in everyone's minds about this person's abilities. When shamed, people stop taking accountability. This kind of sentence is one of the worst I've seen in the industry. PS: This is the best image CHATBOT of Paddle could come up with after trying to get an AI image of this. Any recommendations for better generators? I am not even going to discuss just how sexist this image is considering that my request was gender neutral... it's like women don't even exist in the workplace (and frankly they can be equally toxic as male leaders). But let's not shoot the messenger, AI is just a mirror of society. #cto #reengineeringleadership #culture

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Kartik Shankar

Senior Vice President, Global Head of Engineering at Jefferies - Servant Leader | Hands-On Senior Technologist | DEI champion | Advocate for Neurodiversity

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Lovely post, as always. Would love to hear your thoughts on the very popular - " Don't come to me with problems, come to me with solutions". Adelina Chalmers

Shahbaz Hafeez

Technology Evangelist | Global Engineering Leader | Enabling Product & Sales through Strategic Innovation

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Unfortunately, that's quite common. A leader doesn't just talk or bark but can also show the way. By all means challenge the people but do so constructively and explain what and why its important. An experienced leader knows when and how to help people adapt.

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Mark Batty

Arming B2B CEOs with Strategic Technical Leadership for Scalable Growth

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This type of competence questioning affects people so much, their morale, engagement, etc. all leading to stress. It also accelerates a toxic environment that slowly eats through the entire company - unforgivable. Nobody knows everything, and mistakes do happen, but then it's important to address it constructively with support.

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Jay Aigner

The QA Guy | Automated Software Testing Expert | Founder & CEO at JDAQA | Host of The First Customer Podcast

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A culture where leadership passes the buck is one of the biggest red flags for any organization.

Alexander Weinmann

Tokenizer. Intellectual Property and Digital Content in the context of Web3 and AI.

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You are describing a causality chain! In your case, the root cause would be the CEO, not the minors who are just copying his behaviour. Is there something more specific to blame than just „the whole of society“?

Edwin Suarez

Driving business growth with forward-thinking digital innovation | Tech Speaker | Mentor | MIT SDM, MBA

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Adelina Chalmers I’ve been using MidJourney

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Nick Hughes

CTO and Engineering Leader

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Great post!

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