Singleness Quotes

“I'm single because I was born that way.”
― Mae West

“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Single |sin•gle| (adjective) - Too fabulous to settle.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“There are some places in life where you can only go alone. Embrace the beauty of your solo journey.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“There’s something really cool about knowing that your destiny is SO big that you’re not meant to share it with anyone. At least not yet.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“I had struggled so hard and so long that I had simply exhausted myself, only to find that God had all the time in the world to wait for me to allow Him to free me.”
― Michelle McKinney Hammond

“...Singles, too, must see the penultimate status of marriage. If single Christians don't develop a deeply fulfilling love relationship with Jesus, they will put too much pressure on their DREAM of marriage, and that will create pathology in their lives as well.”
― Timothy Keller, The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

“Let us crush these so-called biological clocks that give us nothing but fear, and encourage us to make stupid decisions. Let us crush these biological clocks that hurt us and rob us of the fabulous lives that Jesus died to give us. These clocks that not only hurt us, but hurt many generations after us.

It is time. We need you.”
― Osayi Osar-Emokpae, Impossible Is Stupid

“The world always said to just be yourself, but it turned out when Evelyn was herself, no guys were at all interested, so she was left with games of make-believe, expressing enthusiasm for whatever the men wanted to do, be it rock climbing or going to a cheese-beer pairing or a Knicks game.”
― Stephanie Clifford, Everybody Rise

“I never feel alone realizing the fact that my life is my only life partner”
― Munia Khan

“But if as you read this book you're saying to yourself: "I'd rather be miserably married than be alone." Well young lady, take out your clown shoes and buckle your seat belt - it's going to be a very bumpy one-woman circus.”
― Osayi Osar-Emokpae, Impossible Is Stupid

“Fighting to hold on to what God said to let go of is an outright denial of His omniscience.”
― Andrena Sawyer

“In much of our thinking, singleness, if not downright bad, is certainly not seen as good. One writer has noticed the difference between Christian books on marriage and those on singleness. In the books on marriage, marriage is assumed to be a great thing and all that remains is to understand it better, and perhaps be aware of one or two potential pitfalls that might arise. But books on singleness typically have a different starting point. Singleness is assumed to be pretty much awful. The point of the books is, therefore, to see if we might to eke out something just about tolerable from it. Even the way we describe singleness reflects this. It is almost always defined in the negative, as the absence of something. It is the state of not being married. It is the absence of significant other. This defining by negation reinforces the idea that there is nothing intrinsically good about singleness. It is merely the situation of lacking what is intrinsically good in marriage.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“It is no surprise that weddings can be a little bittersweet for single people. We’re genuinely happy for our friends as they marry. But there can also be a sense of loss. It is the start of a new era for the couple. But the end of an era for our friendship. A single friend of mine in his late forties, recently said that the marriage of one of his closest friends felt like a bereavement. It feels as though you’ve been demoted. One writer, Carrie English, describes feelings of rejection that come when attending the wedding of friends. Two people announcing publicly that they love each other more than they love you. There is not denying that weddings change friendships forever. Priorities have been declared in public. She’ll be there for him in sickness and in health, till death do they part. She’ll be there for you on your birthday or when he has to work late. Being platonically dumped wouldn’t be so bad if people would acknowledge that you have the right to be platonically heartbroken. But it’s just not part of our vocabulary. However much our society might pay lip service to friendship, the fact remains that the only love it considers important, important enough to make a huge public celebration, is romantic love.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“Getting married is no guarantee of companionship and care for life. Neither is having kids. Life in this tragic and fallen world is fraught for all of us. No one situation provides any ultimate security. No matter our station in life, we live with uncertainty.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“You both gain and lose when you get married. You gain a partner who will work with you (if you're marrying a Christian)…But you lose the ability to do everything on your own, do only what you want to do, eat only what you want to eat, sleep in if you don't want to get up, watch only the TV programs you want to see, quit a job if you don't like it, move to another town if you prefer, or join the circus. In short, you lose the ability to be selfish without paying a horrible price.”
― Ray Mossholder, Singles Plus: The Bible and Single Life

“But with many of my friendships, I tend to make the first move. This is understandable as I’m the one looking for some happy company when I have a free evening or weekend. My married friends don’t have the same need for immediate company. I get that. But over time it can start to hurt. And it can make you wonder how long you might have to wait for them to initiate contact. Some of my friends have said something along the line of “You know where you are and you’re always welcome. Don’t wait for us to invite you.” On one level, this is very touching. But when several say it, the cumulative effect on darker days is to make me hear it as, “We’re not going to be thinking of you or pursuing you. We don’t necessarily need you, and so you’re going to have to reach out to us if you want to come over. And it will always need to be you coming to us, rather than the other way around.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“Some of my friends have said something along the line of “You know where you are and you’re always welcome. Don’t wait for us to invite you.” On one level, this is very touching. But when several say it, the cumulative effect on darker days is to make me hear it as, “We’re not going to be thinking of you or pursuing you. We don’t necessarily need you, and so you’re going to have to reach out to us if you want to come over. And it will always need to be you coming to us, rather than the other way around.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“The fact is, in all likelihood, singles need their married friends more than their married friends need them. That’s not to say that married friends don’t need their single friends at all, it’s just a different kind or different level of need. As a single person, my friends are a lifeline. They’re like family. They are the ones with whom I feel most known and loved…I need them. Hugely. But the fact is they don’t need me in the same way. Many of them are the equivalent of family, but since they have families of their own, the familial sense I have towards them is not necessarily reciprocated. That might be good and right as far as it goes, but it can also be painful at times.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“I can’t get by with seeing such close friends once every three months. It made me realize that while my close friends feel essential to me, I might not necessarily feel essential to them. That can really hurt. What they are to me, their families are to them. I exist much lower down on their list of needs.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“We’ve been good friends for years. We eat to together once a week on average. We’ve gone on holidays together. We’ve known each other well enough and long enough to have developed a natural ease and familiarity with one another. They’re the kind of people I can quite happily spend time with doing nothing at all. I’m quite serious. It’s not unusual to find us sitting together, all reading books and barely talking for a couple hours or so. We have an unspoken rule that it’s entirely okay to doze off on each other’s couches.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“And having people with whom to do nothing is not necessarily a need [married people are] conscious of.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“When such friends move, and if you excuse the cliche, it feels like they’re taking a bit of my home with them. And when this happens a number of times over successive years, I feel like I’m Voldemort with relational horcruxes scattered all over the place.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“…the feeling that even close friendships had become provisional. There are no guarantees since people can move at any point, or marry, or have some other commitment that supersedes their friendship with me. So, I reasoned, no matter how fond of me a good friend seemed to be they would drop me when work or family warranted it.”
― Sam Allberry, 7 Myths about Singleness

“Singles and other unmarried people are often overlooked in the church. Apart from illustrations and programming that cater to families, singles are the "pick up the slack" group. They are the ones who get stuff done when married members lives' get overfilled with family obligations. when singleness is addressed, it is presented more often than not as the inferior option and even in some circles -for women especially- a dereliction of our call, rather than a lateral move from one sacred mission to the next.”
― Alicia Akins

“Edie?” I put the can opener down. “Can I ask you a personal question?”
“I’m your aunt! Shoot.” She kept chopping methodically.
“Why aren’t you married?”
“Well, why aren’t you married?” Her eyes narrowed. “Because I’m 15!” I retorted.
“Yeah, and I’m 42. And a half.”
― Jessica Glasner, Voyage of the Sandpiper

“Ambiguous losses are a particular type of loss that lack a definition and lack closure. The ambiguous loss of singleness is particularly challenging to navigate. The person could be found in five minutes. Or never. You're not going to get an email from God that says you're never going to have a partner. That hope lingers on, and it's really hard to live in hope that is not met, but there's no end. Humans don't do uncertainty well.”
― Kelly Maxwell Haer, PhD