Chelsea Madden’s Post

1 reason why you are unapproachable, And how you can fix that⤵️ You aren't listening, Instead, you are hearing an argument, And formulating one as they speak to you, This is an easy way to, ❌️ Lose respect from others... ❌️ Get the wrong end of the stick... ❌️ Become unapproachable... But, you can fix that, Use the 10-second rule... Once the other person finishes speaking, Take these 10 seconds to think, And understand their side of everything, Then, think of a way to reach a mutually beneficial outcome, You have a lot more time before you answer than you initially thought, So you can speak with a better answer. Are you guilty of listening to respond rather than listening to understand? I was until I read this. So, remember...

1 reason why you are unapproachable... And how you can fix that: You aren't listening, Instead, you are hearing an argument, And formulating one as they speak to you, This is an easy way to, ❌️ Lose respect from others... ❌️ Get the wrong end of the stick... ❌️ Become unapproachable... But, you can fix that, Use the 10-second rule... Once the other person finishes speaking, Take these 10 seconds to think, And understand their side of everything, Then, think of a way to reach a mutually beneficial outcome, And then you can speak. Are you guilty of listening to respond rather than listening to understand? I was until I read this.

Contrary to popular opinion.. Listening is not a passive act, it's the most active thing you can do. 5 ways to become a better listener: 1/ Connect to your own breath 2/ Ensure your posture and heart reflect your attention 3/ Full presence - ensure you're not in multiple places at one 4/ Ask follow-up questions that come from a genuine place of interest 5/ (Truly) put yourself in their shoes & feel what it would like to be them Worry less about what you're going to say. Care more about understanding their worldview.

Don’t just wait for your turn to talk. Here are 10 simple tips for better listening: 1. Respond with positive, constructive language 2. Remember their name and use it often 3. Become interested in their interests 4. Understand their perspective 5. Offer genuine compliments 6. Don’t criticize or condemn 7. Show Empathy 8. Don’t interrupt 9. Never argue 10. Smile Make your conversation partner feel at ease. Become the reflection of their soul.

In a world where everyone wants to be heard, let's strive to be listeners. Let’s challenge ourselves to not just listen but to listen with our hearts. In doing so, we don’t just communicate; we connect, we understand, we empathize, and we grow. Commit to absorbing not only the words spoken but to feeling the pulse of the message beneath, the emotions it carries, and the silent whispers between the lines. Listening is the silent language of empathy that connects us, heart to heart. Here’s to listening, not just with our ears, but with our hearts.

[1/14] Listen to understand, do not listen to react. Listening is easy, just sit back and relax. But to grab the idea and the actual fact, digesting and understanding it within the context in a short time, it doesn’t. Manage our emotion, control the desire to bounce to the speaker super quick. Listen to the people. Understand them first. Never react, on the wrong time on the wrong reasons.

Read an interesting blog by Duke Matlock titled "The Power Of Listening – Part 1: Listening With Humility" Actively listening should be common sense shouldn't it? So transformative but seldom done. Listen to learn, engage, empower, care...the list goes on. According to Matlock, humility in listening looks like a few things.   1. Seeking first to understand, before you’re understood 2. Listening with an open heart without having walls up 3. Listening with a body posture that leans in an keeping eye contact 4. Not interrupting conversations 5. Asking questions at the end of the conversation to better understand 6. Repeat what they said 7. Respond in grace to what they said

If you are speaking well, then people are listening. If people are listening they get your message. If they get your message they are more likely to buy from you. So, learn to speak with confidence and clarity.

What kind of listener are you? If you’re like most people, you rarely give your full attention to the person speaking to you. You are probably thinking of what you’re going to say while the person is talking. This means you’re “listening to respond”. Try listening to understand. Practice being fully present and listening to understand exactly what the person is saying and then responding with empathy. We can all work on being a better listener. People want to be fully heard. This isn’t happening because we’re not listening. We can do better. Evolve, expand, elevate.

Thought for the day: be a better listener. Being present and being a good listener go hand in hand. Are you most likely to: 1) think of how you want to respond or reply 2) look at your phone 3) start daydreaming